Ever since I can remember (that would be about since eighth grade), all of my guy friends and myself have only ever been hurt by girls. Granted, some situations are a bit more complicated; however, the situations that I encounter almost every time is that the girl breaks up with the guy because the girl was being…well, stupid. Usually unexplainably so.
Okay, the relationship is not working. You’ve changed, I changed, the situation’s changed. Mostly understandable. Cheating, emotional and/or physical. Not acceptable. Really.
Faithfulness is the one thing that keeps relationships together. Although that is somewhat cheating to say because that also entails honesty. But that is the very fundamental of all relationships. I suppose many people live in a world where they take fundamentals for granted.
Maslow’s hierarchy groups human needs into several levels and says that until all needs on one level are met, humans will not strive to meet the needs of the next level. Here is a graphic.
So the theory would be that self-actualization is that for which we strive, and we do that by satisfying the needs below that. However, I offer a different (although probably similar) interpretation.
The physiological needs are our most fundamental needs, and they must always be met. The higher one moves up on the hierarchy, the more one realizes the importance of the levels below, especially the fundamental. What seems to actually happen is that as people satisfy more and more levels, they forget more about the fundamentals. As one approaches self-actualization by moving up the hierarchy, one looks more inward for satisfaction because one starts to realize that everything else is external and cannot provide the same level of satisfaction. Therefore, those approaching self-actualization are not so because all of the other needs are being met, but that they are satisfied with the needs, i.e. they are fulfilled whether or not those needs are being met (aside from the fundamentals) because they are looking inward for satisfaction and not outward.
Many people find it too difficult to live with just the fundamentals, whether that be in life, relationships, or anything.
So why are all these relationships failing? People cannot seem to commit to the fundamentals. People ask for too much before mastering the fundamentals. People are not ready but think they are. Most of these people are girls.
So, girls, stop hurting people. Stop hurting guys. The only thing that does seems to be to give us reasons to drink.
Although we might as well. These recent developments have upset me so. Good relationships that would have been even greater if people would just grow up.
The good news is that since all of this nonesense has been happening to my friends, I tried to think of a common factor between all of us. The common factor seems to be that we are all smart (I like to think that I am too). I guess I am the other common factor, but I doubt I am the one causing all everything. But, really. I have smart friends and tend to attract smart people into my life. Go us.
