Dream On

Think back to high school.  And even middle school.  Memories probably come up of fun times, mistakes, dumb girls, and bald English teachers.

Overall, whether the memories are mostly good or bad, lots of lessons were learned.  But take a bigger step back, and it just seems like a dream.

During a dream, what is the most fun thing to do when there is the sudden realization that the current moment is a dream? Go crazy.  Nothing will matter in the future, once the body wakes up.  If we had known this back then, that all this would seem to us no more than just a dream, would we have done some stuff differently?  Perhaps taken a few more risks, went on a few more dates, and dome more awesome things.

Well, what if college ends up being the same after we graduate, along with our jobs and relationships?

Surveys have found out that people are more okay with situations than they think they will be, i.e. one is not as happy nor saddened by events that they think will make them happy or sad.

In conclusion, take a few more risks, go on a few more dates, and do some more awesome things.

Busy is Good

For the first time since I have been in college, I am considering that I am doing too much stuff.  Mainly, I am just taking too many classes (from my last counting, I am unofficially taking 29 credit hours).

Today, John said to me that “busy is good.”  And that’s true; I love being busy.  However, it has gotten to the point of

“Hey!  How are you?”
“I’m great!” but not really, I am just too busy to explain what is upsetting me.

Now, I do not believe in not having enough time, but there are some drawbacks to being overly busy, and I am allowed to be drawn back since I am human.

For example, it can get quite lonely.

But, of course, “If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”

Another week, another challenge.  Bring it on.

What is Love?

This will sound a bit counterintuitive at first.

Love is when ones want for someone overcomes ones need for someone.

Neediness comes from desperation.  Desperation comes from scarcity.  Scarcity comes from lack of self confidence.

If you are hungry and have been starving, you will jump at the first thing that is edible; at that point, you need food.  However, if you are full, you will choose what food to eat, if there is food present.  Perhaps you really like the peanut butter praline, so you choose to have that.  But you had a choice- you could have not eaten it, or you could have waited and gotten yourself something else later.

Similarly, if you are desperate for a relationship, you will settle for whomever comes your way first;  you will confuse that neediness for love.  But, if you have the mindset that you are well liked and have a choice of whom you want to date, you will choose whom you think is best for you.

Of course, just saying that you are well liked but not believing it does not work.  You have to actually believe it, be confident, and be active in shaping your life.  Believe that you have the ability to make any person extremely happy and fortunate, and that people have to win you over, not the other way around.  Until you are confident in yourself, you will not be able to figure out what you want, and , therefore, you will be unable to attract people, leading you to be needy and confused.

Remember, I don’t know is never a good answer when dealing with relationships.

Be Awesome

There is no need to have a plan B because it distracts from plan A. – Will Smith

Two days ago, I decided that my life is fantastic.

And it has been.  For the past two days.  And it will continue to be, until I decide that it is not.

I decided that all the things that were making me unhappy…well, shouldn’t make me unhappy.  Because I am too awesome for that.  And the only reason that my life was not fantastic before two days ago is because I got too distracted and forgot that it was.

If you are at a loss for goals for the new year, consider these.  I promise these will change your life.

1.  In the long run, not everything matters as much as they initially seem. Live more in the moment.  Be spontaneous.  Take risks.  Try new things.  Just do it.

2.  If you’re not having fun, don’t do it. Or make it fun.  It’s all perspective, anyway.   I always have fun, whether it’s hanging out downtown or putting together portfolios.

3.  Be confident.  You are awesome, attractive, unique, and successful.  You only fail because you set yourself up to do so.  Believe it.  Do it.

Lastly, some things are worth waiting for, but many things are not.  Keep things in perspective.  If you decide something is worth waiting for, still keep those three things above in mind.

And now, some relevant pictures.

Headless Turkeys Can Still Cluck

Life’s Challenges

Life’s challenges usually make life fun and worth living. Life would be unexciting if everything came easy.

I especially like challenges. I remember one time I said that I’m “ready to get hurt again,” referring to that I’m ready to move on from the past and meet new girls who will end up making me unhappy since that is usually what happens. But, you get hurt, you move on, you learn a few things, and it gets better. And when something finally works, it is that much better because of how hard you worked for it.

That is why I enjoy running, I suppose. It’s so much work, and sometimes there are disappointments, but you also see results. Seeing the fruition of all that hard work is rewarding.

Challenges sometimes come in the form of others not believing in you. Those are quite fun. The next time someone tells you, or you think someone would tell you, that what you want to do is crazy and that you’d probably fail, consider taking that challenge; if not to spite the people, but just to better yourself, even if you end up failing.

You Spin Me Right Round Like…

…Well, like this:

Radio

This is basically how I feel about songs on the radio these days.

Omegle conversation log

2010-01-01

You’re now chatting with a random stranger. Say hi!

You: Hi

Stranger: Sup girl

You: Are you going to start rapping?

Stranger: No babe

You: Still sounds like the beginning of a rap.

Stranger: I luv u

You: Still good

Stranger: Do me please

You: Not uncommon.

You: You should start rhyming though

Stranger: Please

You: Alright. Rhyme “please” with “please.” Good enough for radio these days

You: Now you need a catchy chorus

Stranger: Get in my pants

You: Good start

You: Give me more. Something very vague

Stranger: Jk

Your conversational partner has disconnected.

Quite unfortunate that he disconnected.  We might have had the next big hit if he had continued.