This will sound a bit counterintuitive at first.
Love is when ones want for someone overcomes ones need for someone.
Neediness comes from desperation. Desperation comes from scarcity. Scarcity comes from lack of self confidence.
If you are hungry and have been starving, you will jump at the first thing that is edible; at that point, you need food. However, if you are full, you will choose what food to eat, if there is food present. Perhaps you really like the peanut butter praline, so you choose to have that. But you had a choice- you could have not eaten it, or you could have waited and gotten yourself something else later.
Similarly, if you are desperate for a relationship, you will settle for whomever comes your way first; you will confuse that neediness for love. But, if you have the mindset that you are well liked and have a choice of whom you want to date, you will choose whom you think is best for you.
Of course, just saying that you are well liked but not believing it does not work. You have to actually believe it, be confident, and be active in shaping your life. Believe that you have the ability to make any person extremely happy and fortunate, and that people have to win you over, not the other way around. Until you are confident in yourself, you will not be able to figure out what you want, and , therefore, you will be unable to attract people, leading you to be needy and confused.
Remember, I don’t know is never a good answer when dealing with relationships.
